Surrender is Hard to Surrender to

"Surrender is hard to Surrender to," a friend said to me today.

I understand that experience. In fact, it can seem impossible. We have the idea that we want to surrender, but we can't. Where the struggle comes from is in trying to get yourself to do something you don't actually want to do. That's the tough part of ceasing any addiction. We have this belief that our ego/mind will actually win, we will become significant, and be somebody, and gain admiration, and love, and safety in the process.

Back to surrender: actually surrender is the easiest thing in the world. All you have to do is give up. Now, wanting to give something up, that's a process. What aids the the process is to become clear on what is being provided versus the cost that is extracted. When we are clear that something costs way more than it is worth, giving it up is easy. For instance, at some point, early in life, you may have been fascinated with touching fire. It wasn't hard to give that one up, was it? But if touching fire offered pleasure which equaled or outweighed the pain, people would have far more scars and we would have government sponsored, "Just say no to fire" campaigns, designed to get kids to stop 'burning' after school.

Anyway, consider that the identity/ego is powerless to take you beyond itself. As Einstein said, (and I paraphrase), we cannot solve a problem with the same thinking which created the problem in the first place. It's like using motor oil to wash out motor oil. At best, you'll be left with oily clothes. You can't think your way beyond thought. You can't do your way beyond doing. It's hopeless. To the contrary, the solutions to ego, that the ego offers, only reinforce ego. In light of this, surrender is the only viable option. If you're in quicksand, and every movement takes you deeper, STOP! Be still, quit struggling!

The good news is that you don't have to know how to do it, or figure it out. All you have to do is stop. Stop trying to do it. Stop trying to figure it out. Now here's the big secret: what you are seeking, is seeking you, with an enthusiasm which probably dwarfs your own. There is something on the other side of the ego boundary which knows who you really are, that knows what you're really worth, and has been waiting for you to be still so that it can get to you.

It's amazing when you get that. It's like George Cloney, or Catherine Zeta Jones (two of my favorite flirts) just winked at you and flashed their dazzling smile, and you're looking behind you to see who they're actually flirting with, but there's nobody there. It's YOU they're after!

But then it's bigger than that: It's not just George or Catherine (wonderful as they are), the One who has been seeking you, tirelessly, is none other than Ultimate Being. That's right, God has been plotting how to capture YOUR heart. You're that important.

WHOLLY CRAP. You mean ME?

Yes, YOU!

So that's what your resistance has been holding at bay. You've been costing yourself the intimate knowledge of how Infinite Love feels about you. And the payoff for this is?...

Now you do the math.